"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you spouses from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect" (Quran 30:21).
They say Valentine's Day is a light and fun holiday, we should all lighten up. Hmm, well if this were true then one can not have the belief in their heart that God will Judge on Judgement Day. Every single action we complete is in record. All actions we commit will be presented either for us, or against us. Even Valentine's Day. First of all, I think most people know its origin, right? You know that story that revolved around pagans, and how it transferred into lives of saints, then ofcourse Hallmark is all over it cashing in, roses are expected by women, preschool kids are learning about the heart shape, teens in highschool get the privledge of sending secret admirer chocolates..and everyone seemed to forget something very important here. Its origin, and the fakeness of it all.
Deception! Deception, because everyone seems to have forgotten why Valentines is supposedly crucial to their beleifs as a whatever: Jew, Hindu, Buddhist, and even people claiming to be Muslim. Glory belongs to God.
Love in Islam is so sacred. Precious love for children. Honorable love for parents. Sacred love for spouse. Glowing love for family. Commited love for community. All because of the most powerful love of all, a serving love for God/ALLAH.
There's no concept in Islam of doing something just for the heck of it. Everything is accounted for, and intention is looked at first. SUre, we are all at fault of off intentions sometimes. But if someone wants to express or proclaim their love for something or someone why should it be emphasized only on one day? Why does it need to be in the form of flowers and chocolates? Don't get me wrong I love those things, I just don't see why only on one day this is so special as they say. I love my family, my children, parents and brother. I love my sister -in-law and people in general. So why do I have to limit my attention to them on Valentine's day? Instead of accepting the norm of society, why not question it?
Kids are so impressionable. They need to know why this and why that. Its sometimes hard, but if you foster in them the greatest love of all, a love for God and Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings be upon him) by reminding them and talking to them about all the beautiful things in history, by pointing out God's gracious glorious ways seen by the view of a single most eloquent rose, then the concept of love for God thorugh every action my be instilled in their hearts.
Protect them from feeling they need to partake in senseless holidays like this one. Teach them about the what True love really is. Its trust in Allah, and the practice to do what is right. Instead of having them toy around with the the idea of hearts, candies, chocolates and the yummies. Remind them that everyday should be a day of love because Allah loves them and wants the best for them. Oh, and about all those sweets, maybe doing a search on them on the internet to find out how they are made or where exactly sugar comes from will give them a deeper appreciation of a love for goodies, a deeper appreciation for God. Put God first on every occassion. Especially on an occassion that proclaims love.
I hope my little girl doesn't throw a fit when I tell her she's not going to pre-school tomorrow morning, especially when her 1st grader sister who's in an Islamic school will , God-willing/InshaAllah. Maybe by teaching kids at a young age about everything and exposing them to truth about all things at a rate they can understand, will simplify the decisions and actions they take when they are teens or adults. God willing. May God protect all children, and guide us all on the Straight Path.
True Love is love for someone or something that is given to please Allah. The hoopla of Valentine's Day simply negates this.
Check out what our reply should be when someone says "I love you". Prophet Muhammad (peace & blessings upon him) taught us..you'll see it at the top of this post.