STANCE of a MUSLIMAH

Our Lord! You truly know all that we may hide in our hearts as well as all that we bring into the open, for nothing whatsoever, be it on earth or in heaven, remains hidden from Allah. {Quran, 14:38}

4/23/2006

Mama Guilt

"Allah (SWT) has created human beings and blessed them with the longest childhood among His creations. We have a lot to learn about life, creation, and our Creator and what we learn requires a lot of time to learn, understand, and implement. Teaching and conditioning from childhood is our best bet at retaining all of the vital information provided to us by Allah. So, childhood remains the most critical time by which to set up an Islamic foundation.However, Allah (SWT) also gave us the potential to change ourselves. He has granted opportunities and second chances to those whose parents did not raise them to be good Muslims; through His mercy and forgiveness, He has given us all the chance to start again. Though it is not easy to accomplish, with sincerity, azeema (back bone), and mothabarah (persistence), all children can become good Muslims."~Sahar Kassaimah, IslamOnline

Allah has blessed me and is now trialling me with 3 daughters and 1 son. Praise Allah. Everyday brings new challenges with a household of 4 kids under the age of 7. It does not help either when I lose it and snap for reasons unjustified. I know, I haven't heard of a mother guilt free. But my goal is to limit that guilt as much as I can by rectifying my parenting techniques. I lose it too much, my patience. Yet, I love them and want to see them as real strong Muslims. It would be nice I guess to see them educated as doctors, engineers or holding some high rank positions as adults. But honestly, and Allah knows what is in my heart, I just want these kids to be good Muslims. Not like good Muslims I see or know, but better, much better than that. So then I have to ask myself, if I flip over something ridiculous like the kids laughing too hard while their baby sister is sleeping..then how I enable that goal to become a reality?? There is no other time I feel more guilty than when they are all asleep. I just pray that Allah helps guide me in guiding these kids giving them what they need to make it as those who are guarded and protected on Judgement Day. So here I am posting all this so I can share with all of you a fatwa (religious ruling) on raising kids. This is the hardest job of my life because I have no guarantee of its outcome, I can only pray that they reflect upon the 'Sign's of Allah, are granted with Allah's' 'Mercy', become Strong Believers, and live their lives with 'Sincere Devotion'. (these are the meanings of my children's names). Anyways, below is a reminder for myself more than anyone else. It's taken from www.zawaj.com.

"Indeed, Allah creates children with pure innate nature, and whatever defects that happen later is the result of bad education. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, is reported to have said: “Every child is born on Fitrah (man’s innate disposition to monotheism), his parents make him Jewish, Christian or a fire worshipper.” (Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim) That is why Islam has ordered parents to take care of their children and to bring them up according to the Islamic manners. Focusing more on the very interesting question you have raised, we would like to cite the following: Allah Almighty has entrusted parents with their children. Parents bear the responsibility to raise up their children in the Islamic way. If they do that they will be blessed in this life and in the Hereafter, and if they don't, they will get bad result during their life and in the Hereafter. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said: “All of you are guardians and all of you are responsible for things under your guardianship; the ruler is a guardian (managing his state’s affairs) and he is responsible for things under his care, the man is a guardian over his family and responsible for them, the woman is a guardian of her husband's house and she is responsible for it. All of you are guardians and responsible for things under your control.” (Reported by Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

The Prophet, (peace and blessings be upon him) did not excuse any one from responsibility that Allah has put on every individual to build the Islamic society: the ruler is responsible: the man and woman are responsible.... all within their capabilities, domains, and authorities... and the loss of Islam from our Muslim Ummah these days is nothing but a result of the neglect of responsibility. Men and women, fathers and mothers share the responsibility to raise up, educate, and build the new generation in the correct method and the right way. Man has in him the good and bad tendencies, so parents must encourage and grow the good tendencies in the child so he can become a useful person that helps himself and his people. Referring to this, Allah Almighty says: "Oh' you who believe, protect yourselves and your families from a fire whose fuel is men and stones." (At-Tahreem: 6) The protection of yourself and your family from Hell-Fire won't be with anything but good education, the practice of good morals, and the guidance to nobility. Islam does not distinguish between male and female with regard to the education requirements.

The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said: “Whoever has a daughter, tutors her on good morals, educates her well and feeds her properly; she will be a protection for him from Hell-Fire.” What do we mean by good education? The good education means the physical, mental and moral preparation of the child so he can become a good individual in the good society.
Methods for Moral Upbringing:
1- Showing the values of good deeds and their
effects on the individuals and society; also showing the effects of bad deeds, all within the child's capability of understanding.
2- Parents should be a good example
in their behavior because children like to imitate their parents in their sayings and their deeds.
3- Teaching the child the religious principles.
and tutoring him in worship, taking into account the child's capability of understanding. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) is reported to have said: “Order your children to pray at the age of seven.”
4- Treating children nicely and kindly.
The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) taught us that practically. When he was praying as an Imam with the people, his grandson Al-Hasan, son of his daughter Fatimah, may Allah be pleased with them rode his back while he was bowing. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, lengthened his bow. When he finished his prayer, some attending Companions said, “You lengthened your bow?” Then the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, answered, “My grandson rode my back and I hate hastening him.”
5- One of the important things that parents must teach their children is to choose the good company and to the avoid the bad one, because children are always influenced by the company they keep. The bad behavior can be easily transmitted through bad company. So the Prophet, (peace and blessings be upon him),warned us by saying, “Man is inclined to get influenced by his friend's manners, so one must be careful in choosing friends.” (Reported by Abu Dawud & At-Tirmidhi)
6- Encouraging the child's sense of belonging to the Muslim Ummah, by teaching him of the brotherhood between Muslims, teaching him to care for Muslims in any land, and that he is part of the Muslim body, to feel joy when Muslims are joyous, to feel sad for Muslims' sadness, and to do best to achieve the Muslim Ummah’s goals.
All of this can be done practically through:
A- Taking children to Mosques and introducing them to their brother in Islam regardless of race, language, or origin.
B- Teaching the children the history of the Prophet, (peace and blessings be upon him) and his Companions and the history of Islam, bearing in mind the child's capability of understanding.
C- Encouraging children to sympathize with Muslim problems and to contribute to the solutions such as the poverty problem and to donate some money to the hungry Muslim children.
D- Taking part in the celebrations and festivals with Muslims, and sharing picnics and creating ties with their Muslim brothers of the same age.
E- Imbuing in children the feeling of love of Allah, His Prophet, Muslims, and all people. This love will lead to special behavior towards all those loved.
These are general guidelines to raise our children Islamically, so every Muslim must take care of his children and know the correct path that must be followed. This will help us do the job we are entrusted to do as Allah proscribed, as well as the responsibility the Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, has clarified, with aim of protecting the future generations of Muslims, as Allah Almighty says:
"And Say Do deeds! Allah will see your deeds..., and And you will be brought back to the All-Knower of the unseen and the seen. Then He will inform you of what you used to do." (At-Tawbah: 105)

4/19/2006

Times 4

This is the first post that I have forwarded to someone prior to publishing on this site. Although I am not a co-wife, I am a woman and can feel for women who are. For that reason I wanted to assure that this article is based on True Islam and not that of my emotional stance. Of all people whom I trust of opinion, it is my husband who I trust the most in fair dealings. He backed me on this and gave me the green light to set free on my blog without need for correction. But just as a side note I've talked to him about this in the past because it is only been recent that I have been able to justify this in my heart not just my mind. (By clicking on the title above you can check out a good article written by Dr./Imam Jamal Badawi on greater details pertaining to the history of polygamy in the 3 monotheistic religions .) All Praises belong to God alone. Here I go again...

Ok, so I am having one of those pain in the neck thoughts about something that has been driving me nuts for some time, at least to some extent. I love everything about Islam. Islam is a perfect way of life, and yes, for everyone. The problem is people. Islam is perfect and people are far off from that, not excluding myself. I have been reading up on the topic of “Polygamy”. It is justified. It is moral. It is correct. It is even perfect. Polygamy is all these things under specific circumstances! First, let me get something straight, and clear up a messed up misconception of polygamy in Islam. In no way, I mean NONE whatsoever, is a man able to marry more than one woman for the sole purpose of justification of a man’s egotistical satisfaction, as many people, even those who consider themselves Muslims, believe. To be a True Muslim, we need to not only follow the rulings of Quran but we have to understand them. The way we understand them is by following the way of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). Any decision we make as Muslims has to be in the frame of “What would the Last Messenger (pbuh) do?, How would he do it?”

So having said that, let me backtrack for a second. Islam is about getting down to basics. Quite literally too, modesty is not only the way one dresses, but it’s about the way Muslims eat, sleep, work and interact with one another male or female. Islam teaches us how to do these individual tasks, and for that reason, we will be held accountable for every single minuscule detail in our lives.
Everything “insignificant” is actually quite significant. Living large because life is short is a reckless mentality in the heart of a true Muslim. Moderation is key, so key! I am not saying not Islam tells Muslims they shouldn’t seek the pleasures of this life, I am saying that Islam tells people to always have the goal of the Hereafter and that we should love to do good deeds for the ultimate purpose of reaching Paradise.

Ok, so back to this Polygamy issue. Allah tells us in the Quran:

"If you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then (marry) only one…" (Qur’an 4:3)

Dr. Jamal Badawi points out what this Verse (Ayah) really means:

1 That polygamy is neither mandatory, nor encouraged, but merely permitted.


2 That the permission to practice polygamy is not associated with mere satisfaction of. Rather, it is associated with compassion towards widows and orphans, a matter that is confirmed by the atmosphere in which the verse was revealed.

3 That even in such a situation, the permission is far more restricted than the normal practice that existed among the Arabs and other peoples at that time when many married as many as ten or more wives.

4 That dealing justly with one’s wives is an obligation. This applies to housing, food, clothing, kind treatment…etc., for which the husband is fully responsible. If one is not sure of being able to deal justly with them, the Quran says: "then (marry) only one." (Quran 4:3) This verse, when combined with another verse in the same chapter, shows some discouragement of such plural marriages. The other verse plainly states: "You are never able to be fair and just between women even if it is your ardent desire…" (Quran 4:129) The requirement of justice rules out the fantasy that man can "own as many as he pleases." It also rules out the concept of a "secondary wife", for all wives have exactly the same status and are entitled to identical rights and claims over their husband. It also implies, according to the Islamic Law, that should the husband fail to provide enough support for any of his wives, she can go to court and ask for a divorce.

5 The verse says "marry," not kidnap, buy or seduce. What is "marriage" as understood in Islam? Marriage in Islam is a civil contract, which is not valid unless both contracting parties consent to it. Thus, no wife can be forced or "given" to a husband who is already married.

So this all leads back to the teacher and love of Muslims, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). We know that he himself was married for 25 years to only one woman, the first Muslim by the way after Prophet Muhammad (received his first revelation). Her name was Khadija (may God be pleased with her). It was only after her death, did the Last Messenger (pbuh) married other women. He married a woman who no one wanted to marry, he married an elderly woman, he married a widow. The purpose of these marriages was NOT for fulfilling a man’s desire and living life with women all over him. NO IT WASN’T LIKE THAT. Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon this most humble man, married women out of a legal responsibility to take care of them when no other humble man would! He did this to teach the Muslim men to look out for the female victims of society whom no one has their best interest at heart except those who fear God and believe that accountability will occur!!

Men are allowed to marry up to 4 women under circumstances that anyone can digest easily. Its not about men abusing this right of theirs to get married to a 2nd, 3rd, or 4th wife for the sake of their own entertainment. Nothing annoys me more than when I’ve heard or read somewhere that a man can marry more than one woman rather than just “hooking up”. Marriage is something SO SACRED in Islam. So you can imagine me, as a woman, how ticked I get every time I hear that excuse. Hypothetically, if a man has children, a God-fearing good wife and another woman comes along who has embraced Islam and there are no pious men for her for whatever reason, then I can understand. If a wife is terminally ill and has children and the husband seeks to marry another woman, I can also get that. My point, is the point of polygamy justification, as ruled in Islam. It means a man marries for a justified reason, out of responsibility, out of compassion and mercy for another woman, or even for that first woman, not for feeding into his testosterone. Because if a man has everything and then goes out looking for some more, then that in itself is NOT JUSTICE done towards his first wife. Surely, Allah is a witness over all things. Let’s also keep a mental note of the fact that Allah tells men that it will be easier for them to stick with one wife as it will be difficult to be fair and just. So polygamy if practiced, needs to be done for the same careful purposes Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) did it. Not for adorning himself in life, and not for the sake of the materialistic principle that having more is better. Period!

4/11/2006

He DOES Micro-Manage!


Married 10 years to a Muslim man, Allah bestowed no children upon them. Describing her respect and admiration for him she seems to be a bit too content that he sought a separate way from her upon his return from Hajj, holy pilgrimage. So pleasantly surprised she seemed to meet me, a jilbaab dressed Muslim woman, as she greeted me with “Asalaam Alaikum” (Islamic greeting of peace) and used common terminology like “Insha’Allah” (God-Willing) when appropriate. Impressed by her demonstrating love for the wisdom of Quran and respect for Islam as a fascinating and enriching way of life, all I could think of was to seek God’s assistance, and wonder what the purpose of my meeting her really was. Was God’s Plan that she could be introduced to a fresh look of Islam compared to the negative picture she has painted in her mind? Could it be that God placed and timed our meetings on a slow yet ongoing basis so that she can look at me and recheck her warped thoughts of Islam?

Today, I figured it out. I am so gullible. Certainly, I at least new she had some sort of chip on her shoulder for this Jihad guy and his Palestinian family. I mean, I could see her eyes & stature be filled with emotions when she told me that she is so happy for him that he’s happily married to a “wonderful” Jordanian woman that doesn’t speak English, and a father of twin boys. Somehow she expresses a love for his family too, yet ironically her “mother-in-law”, (no, she doesn’t refer to Jihad as her EX, although she is currently married to another British man), supposedly hates her beyond belief. This 40-something year old woman who claims to love Islam is the same woman who said something like: “who cares if someone takes a little cookie, that doesn’t belong to them, God is too big to micro-manage the details of life…punishment is equal to guilt. I knew I never could be Muslim when I had asked a Imam about using someone else’s egg to get pregnant he said this was absolutely forbidden, yet when I asked an Episcopalian Minister he taught that anything that people love, God loves…” SHOUDLN'T THAT BE THE OPPOSITE SOMEHOW?!!!!

Only after these words hit my ears did it finally become clear, it was not the family of her ex-husband she had an issue with as much as it was her issue with my way of life, Islam.


I needed to play it cool though and just kept bringing up the similarities in our beliefs, for many reason. 1. I know that what I say, do, or act plays a heavy role on the way she sees Muslims (like many people’s misperceptions) 2. Obviously knew this was yet another test for ME, as God was using me as a tool for His Service 3. I didn’t want to challenge her so much as she seemed too emotionally involved to think straight plus, well, just trust me on this one! 4. We work together there in the oral-deaf preschool that my daughter attends. (Which reminds me, the way this whole rambled conversation thing got started was that I brought in markers made to be drawn on windows for my fine motor group. The kids loved it, and as an OT I loved vertical writing as it promotes wrist extension and upper extremity endurance & strength. But that’s a whole other story.)

We got started talking about painting and how in her experience arabs in general do not like the Arts. I made mention that I love doing crafts with the kids but the only exception is that we never use food as a medium. Somehow I managed to affend her with this and she said that because God is so beautiful that using food is a wonderful way to demonstrates God's beautiful creations. "Umm, ok." I politely said, I can undertand that point but would rather use God's other creations to do so rather than food that people are literally dying from a lack of!

So you see my point here? I hope. I don’t understand. I don’t really understand the confidence factor of some people talking about the afterlife as if its all peachy when they have no proof of it. I even asked her what her view of Jesus (peace and blessings be upon him) and she told me that he was the greatest man who ever lived and that she “thinks” he was born to the Virgin Mary (may God be pleased with her). Now read on these next statements, can you believe these rampling in her mind?! She said “I’m not sure, but I don’t really care!” SubhanAllah (Glory belongs to God). Another hypocritical statement it surely was. How could she believe that Jesus was the best human yet not care if his mother was the best of all women?! Having said all that I am starting of a happening yesterday.

On another reflective stance, a random act of kindness given towards my son, 'Strong Believer' who God-willing turns 3 at the end of this month. He was having so much fun through the simple things of life that normal toddlers love. On a carousel carefree and, mashaAllah (what God wills) happy that he just splurged himself on 2 rides while we were waiting for Nena and his baby sister 'Sincere- Devotion' to check out of the grocery store. All I had were pennies left for change, and the slot only took quarters. Alhamdulilah (Praise Allah) it was a beautiful spring day, so I told 'Strong-Believer' he can pretend to be galloping along on the blue sattled horse for a few minutes. People walking in and out of the supermarket some smiled and nodded while others pretended not to even have glanced. Then a well-fit elderly man walked out at a moderate pace towards us with a big smile on his face and pulled out a perfect coin for my sweety and popped it right into that desirable slot! "Here helper, you get another ride for being a good boy for Mama!" Truly touched, he didn't even look back to see my toddler on the horse or anything. This elder probably didn't even think about this, and how much of an impact it had on me. I couldn't help but pray that he becomes one of the Muslims. So that's just it. We know there are so many good people in this world. So many willing to give charity not to show off. So many devoted to being optimistic within a dull situation. So many people who care for others in a compassionate way. I don't get it though. Why is it these people who are loving, like 'Mercy's' teachers, my children's pediatricians, the nurses I work with..why is it they are not Muslim?! I have mentioned this several times to my husband. My curiosity as to what makes it so hard for someone to just say "There is One God, and Muhammad is the Last Messenger", you know, the Shahada. I am not even talking about the practice of Islam now, just the cornerstone statement, belief at this point. I mean, they certainly have enough proof that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) existed and was a prophet. They have more details of the Hereafter than in any other faith. They have the knowledge that the Noble Quran has not been changed, not one letter since 1400 years ago. C'mon with that fact alone, some brains must declare BINGO!! It has got to enter the heart! I don't get why people are so secure in their thoughts, that they will be in a safe place when they die, and yet they shutter to talk about death and act so afraid?! I don't get why many of these "good" people say same-gender marriages (happening here) are not ok, but they are fine about homosexuality. Oh, and I can't comprehend for what purpose do people feel like they are here in this world without fair accountability, or how they feel they have a right to just enjoy their lives while souls are constantly being lifted. Can't they see that Allah is One in by listening to the birds sing praises in the early dawn? Can't they see that no one and nothing is complete except Him? Can't these good people ever wake-up to the fact that we, humanity, are all in it together..that we need to encourage random acts of kindness. To really know the meaning behind anything there has got to be faith that there is truth to be found.

“It is Allah who creates you and takes your souls at death; and there are some of you who are sent back to a feeble age, so that they know nothing after having known (much): for Allah is All-Knowing, All-Powerful” -Quran (16:70)

"He it is Who created the heavens and the earth in six Days and then Istawa (rose over) the Throne (in a manner that suits His Majesty). He knows what goes into the earth and what comes forth from it, what descends from the heaven and what ascends thereto. And He is with you (by His Knowledge) wheresoever you may be. And Allah is the All-Seer of what you do." {57:04}

4/02/2006

Very Edge

After Fajr salah (early morning prayer) I was blessed to have a few minutes to read Quran. Only 1/2 of my kids were awake and they were quiet enough. Often times before I open the Quran I ask Allah to show me Ayat (verses) that will make me reflect on a current situation on my mind, or to clarify something to me that I question or am puzzled about. I then open to a random page and point with my eyes closed to an Ayah (verse, sign) & without getting personal, I'll just say this is what I came upon. May Allah accept my supplication to Him & accept yours. If you haven't asked Him for anything in a while, do it NOW...before Angel of Death knocks on your body. Make that "anything" supplication for Guideance to be drenched into your heart.

ALLAH is talking to YOU in Quran, Muslim or not!!!{22:1-18}

"Oh humanity! Fear your Lord and be dutiful to Him! Verily, the earthquake of the Hour (of Judgement) is a terrible thing.

The Day you shall see it, every nursing mother will forget her nursling, and every pregnant one will drop her load, and you shall see mankind as in a drunken state, yet they will not be drunken, but severe will be the Torment of Allâh.

And among mankind is he who disputes concerning Allâh, without knowledge, and follows every rebellious (disobedient to Allâh) Shaitân (devil) (devoid of each and every kind of good).

For him (the devil) it is decreed that whosoever follows him, he will mislead him, and will drive him to the torment of the Fire.

Oh mankind! If you are in doubt about the Resurrection, then verily! We have created you (i.e. Adam) from dust, then from a Nutfah (mixed drops of male and female sexual discharge i.e. offspring of Adam), then from a clot (a piece of thick coagulated blood) then from a little lump of flesh, some formed and some unformed (miscarriage), that We may make (it) clear to you (i.e. to show you Our Power and Ability to do what We will). And We cause whom We will to remain in the wombs for an appointed term, then We bring you out as infants, then (give you growth) that you may reach your age of full strength. And among you there is he who dies (young), and among you there is he who is brought back to the miserable old age, so that he knows nothing after having known. And you see the earth barren, but when We send down water (rain) on it, it is stirred (to life), it swells and puts forth every lovely kind (of growth).

That is because Allâh, He is the Truth, and it is He Who gives life to the dead, and it is He Who is Able to do all things.

And surely, the Hour is coming, there is no doubt about it, and certainly, Allâh will resurrect those who are in the graves.

And among men is he who disputes about Allâh, without knowledge or guidance, or a Book giving light (from Allâh),

Bending his neck in pride (far astray from the Path of Allâh), and leading (others) too (far) astray from the Path of Allâh. For him there is disgrace in this worldly life, and on the Day of Resurrection We shall make him taste the torment of burning (Fire).

That is because of what your hands have sent forth, and verily, Allâh is not unjust to (His) slaves.

And among humanity is he who worships Allâh as it were, upon the very edge (i.e. in doubt); if good befalls him, he is content therewith; but if a trial befalls him, he turns back on his face (i.e. reverts back to disbelief after embracing Islâm). He loses both this world and the Hereafter. That is the evident loss.

He calls besides Allâh unto that which hurts him not, nor profits him. That is a straying far away.

He calls unto him whose harm is nearer than his profit; certainly, and evil Maula (patron) and certainly an evil friend!

Truly, Allâh will admit those who believe (in Islâmic Monotheism) and do righteous good deeds (according to the Qur'ân and the Sunnah) to Gardens underneath which rivers flow (in Paradise). Verily, Allâh does what He wills.

Whoever thinks that Allâh will not help him (Prophet Muhammad) in this world and in the Hereafter, let him stretch out a rope to the ceiling and let him strangle himself. Then let him see whether his plan will remove that where at he rages!

Thus have We sent it (this Qur'ân) down (to Muhammad) as clear signs, evidences and proofs, and surely, Allâh guides whom He wills.

Verily, those who believe (in Allâh and in His Messenger Muhammad), and those who are Jews, and the Sabians, and the Christians, and the Magians, and those who worship others besides Allâh, truly, Allâh will judge between them on the Day of Resurrection. Verily! Allâh is Witness over all things.

See you not that to Allâh prostrates whoever is in the heavens and whoever is on the earth, and the sun, and the moon, and the stars, and the mountains, and the trees, and Ad-Dawâb (moving living creatures, beasts, etc.), and many of mankind??? But there are many (humans) on whom the punishment is justified. And whomsoever Allâh disgraces, none can honour him. Verily! Allâh does what He wills."

4/01/2006

OT Month


When I was 17 graduating from high school I did not know what field I wanted to pursue. I kind of wanted to be a teacher, physical therapist and psychologist all at once. At a college fair I learned about Occupational Therapy. It was exactly what I wanted. Alhamdulilah, I graduated with my ASc., took the boards and began working with my license 2 years later at 19. Having worked for a few years plus the experience I wanted to purse my BSc. in it. I know that Allah/God placed me in this direction to show and teach me some of the most important lessons of life. Almost 10 & 1/2 years later I am still being taught that the differences amongst people are huge in every detail of living. Truly no two people are the same, and yet everyone has circumstances that are designed to be reflected upon. Being an occupational therapist humbles me, and reminds me that everyone has challenges in life, but that the ones who seem most content and at peace with themselves are those who are grateful, Muslim or not. Allah has put me in positions of evaluating many elders along the years who are physically and mentally incapable of everything..with them my time is focussed on family intervention and things like positioning and splinting to prevent further deformity or bed soars. Allah has put me in the faces of children who are severely handicapped with cerebral palsy with a role of teaching their mothers how to feed them in the easiest way. Allah has placed before my eyes a mother in her 20's with 3 small children, who got into an accident and lost both her legs. I was left to teach her how to get around in her own home with adaptive equipment. Allah has showed me people with significant schizophrenia at a state facility, and I had a goal for that 40-something year-old man to perform money management skills adequately with proper social skills with supervision; oh and another 45 year old man who was living in a nursing home because of Multiple Sclerosis...yup for the rest of his life. My question is this: how can someone see all these things and not be awake to the power and glory of Allah?? Everytime I get stressed out about something stupid, I try remind myself of these incidents. I have no right to be stressed!!! SubhnaAllah. I pray that my work in OT is accepted by Allah. Because at the end the REAL paycheck granted by Mercy, in the Hereafter, is what really counts. Below is what OT is all about. I adapted it from the link that you'll find by clicking the title of this post above. I know the differences can get confusing and often times it's difficult to distinguish between who's doing the physical therapy vs. occupational therapy. I'm the OT with an "O" & I work lots with those with the "P"! So, for whatever it's worth or not worth(!)... April is OT Month..

The person who needs occupational therapy could be your father or mother facing changes because of aging. It could be your child, frustrated with being unable to do the seemingly simple things the other children at school can do. It could be you or your spouse coping with illness or the results of an accident. It could be anyone who, for whatever reason, can't do the things in life they want or need to do because of a chronic or sudden change in functional ability.

Occupational therapy is therapy based on performing the meaningful activities of daily life (self-care skills, education, work, or social interaction), especially to enable or enhance participation in such activities despite impairments or limitations in physical or mental functioning. Occupational therapy is for individuals of all ages-to improve skills that help them perform daily tasks at home and at school, at work and at play.

Occupational therapy practitioners are skilled professionals. Their education includes the study of human growth and development, with specific emphasis on the social, emotional and physical effects of illness and injury. They help individuals with illnesses, injuries, certain conditions or disabilities get on with their "occupations" of living.

Occupational therapy is a unique profession that considers the whole picture when it comes to a person's treatment including the individual's abilities, the task to be performed, and the environment in which the task takes place.

In a team of healthcare specialists, a surgeon, for example, will operate on your injured knee. A physical therapist will devise a series of exercises to help the knee heal properly with a maximum range of motion. An occupational therapist will ask, "What do you need your knee to do? What activities do you want to do, so you can adapt (the way you walk, drive, move around at home, etc.) to that knee," thereby determining the right treatment for keeping you mobile and an active participant in your own life.

Children: About one-third of occupational therapy practitioners work in school systems, pediatric hospitals, and health care facilities helping millions of children. This places OT practitioners on the frontlines of information about child health and wellness. Within the school system, occupational therapy helps children facing physical, cognitive, or mental health challenges that affect their school performance, socialization, and health. School-based occupational therapy assessment and intervention focuses on certain areas: Activities of daily living: caring for self-needs such as eating, dressing, and toilet habits. Education: achieving in the learning environment. Play: interacting with age-appropriate toys, games, equipment and activities. Social participation: developing appropriate relationships and engaging in behavior that doesn't interfere with learning or social relationships. Work: developing interests and skills necessary for transition to community life after graduation.

To find out how your child can receive occupational therapy through school, The National Information Center for Children and Youth with Disabilities (NICHCY) has a good reference document that provides detailed information: The American Occupational Therapy Association offers Tip Sheets for Consumers to help you cope with specific medical situations facing your child.

Adults: Occupational therapists perform a variety of services for individual adults, such as rehabilitation therapy after a work injury or accident. Occupational therapists also work in consultation with employers and community based organizations on a number of fronts, from program and facility design to day-to-day operations. Occupational therapists serve as advisors to manufacturing and service companies in areas covering wellness, ergonomics, and rehabilitation. Community organizations, government agencies, even construction companies confer with occupational therapists to develop programs to meet the needs of specific populations in the area of community mobility, wellness, facility design, and universal accessibility. The American Occupational Therapy Association offers Tip Sheets for Consumers to help individuals cope with specific medical situations, and to determine how an occupational therapist can help improve wellness and accessibility in the community.

Elderly: Nearly one-third of occupational therapy practitioners work with older adults. They perform many types of activities, employing many types of therapies, with the overriding goal of helping older adults regain or maintain a level of independence that will allow them to age in place for as long as possible. Occupational therapy has been proven effective for seniors living with various medical conditions or recovering from surgery. In addition to working with individuals to increase strength or regain important life supporting skills, occupational therapists work throughout a community, counseling families, local governments, and community groups to ensure that each is doing what it can to help older adults maintain their independence.

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